Listen Boys....

Billy Joel had it right when he sang about keeping a woman happy.  "Tell Her About It", even with the cheesy video, is a great refresher for any man in a relationship or looking for a relationship.  The guy who was married to Christie Brinkley for an obscene amount of time knew what he was talking about.  He looks like Paul Giamatti with a piano necktie and he was married to one of the hottest women of the last 50 years (arguably).  Listen to him.  He knows some good shit.

You have to talk to your girlfriend/wife/lover/mistress/obsession.  Talk to her about everything you can.  And better yet....let her talk to you.  Communication is key.  And be honest with that communication.  Tell her you miss her AND MEAN IT.  Tell her you love her AND MEAN IT.  Tell her you need her AND MEAN IT.  She probably knows it but hearing it is so much more rewarding than just guessing at it.

There are days when missing someone is obviously not on your mind.  Long day at work, you're stressed out, you're hungover, you didn't sleep well.  There are thousands of things that can get in the way of you thinking about that special woman in your life.  Make it a priority to think about her though.  When you think about her you'll miss her.  It will just happen.  You'll catch of whiff of the same smell as her shampoo.  Or you'll hear something silly in conversation and automatically think of a story when something similar happened with the two of you.  It will happen.  You will miss her.  And that's good.  Now just tell her.  Tell her you miss her even if you've just left her.  But mean it.  Don't tell her you miss her when she's driving away and you call her on her cell phone.  Too soon.  Too much.  Too fake.  But a couple hours go by and you think about dinner, and seeing her standing in the kitchen with some short shorts on, and her is swept up in a messy ball on top of her head, and she's gorgeous.  Tell her you're thinking about her, you're missing her.  And tell her you love her.

You can't tell her enough that you love her.  Well you can if you're stalking her and she's got a couple restraining orders on you.  But if you're in a relationship and you've both expressed your love say it over and over again.  It's nice.  It feels good.  If she giggles at a stupid joke on tv....tell her.  If she teaches your baby a new word....tell her.  If she thought of you when she was out with her friends and brought you home a quesadilla.....tell her.  It's nice.  It feels good.  You'll love her even more after you've told her too.  It happens.  It just happens.

Now, this last one is tricky.  Need.  Who needs someone else?  Small children need a lot of help.  Old people need a lot of help.  Everyone in between is a little different.  Having your independence makes it difficult to even think about actually needing someone.  You are you without anyone else.  That's a good thing.  You want that.  You need someone else to make you better though.  You need someone else to make you happy. You need someone else to love you back.  When that happens you're a happy guy.  And it's great when else needs you.  It's awesome.  You're a better person, you're a better man, because someone you love needs you and you need her.

Love is not easy.  It takes effort.  But just a simple thought every now and then can make a world of difference.  Now if you'll excuse me I'm going to tell my wife I miss her, I love her, and I need her.  I think that's a good idea.  And that just happened.